Illusion of control

It is 8:05 and school starts at 8:40, my mind goes all over the place and I cannot hold it to myself and typical mum talk pops out:

“oh, you need to hurry up, you will be late!”

my wise son looks at me and says:

“you know, it is not helping me to do things faster”

and continues in his own pace…

now every morning I am trying to keep my mouth shut, but eventually I would say something like

“you know, it’s 8:05 already!”.

And what do you think I get in return?

“I was waiting when you will say something!”

Well, it is pure illusion of control, when I cannot hold my thoughts to myself: it gives me unconscious feeling that I am doing something about the situation, however in reality this is not the case.

Isn’t it the same in work environment as well: lack of confidence in the future/situation creates this urge to control things, leading to the feeling of doing something about it and making us more comfortable.

Useful question to have in mind: “how is it helping [anyone]?”

Have you been in situations where this desire of feeling of control took over?